“Once a good girls’ gone bad, she’s gone forever…” —Jay Z, Song Cry
I’m what one might call a good girl. Not perfect. I’m spoiled. As Beyonce says, “When I need attention, I tend to nag.” I can be frivolous with money. And I get horrid PMS…but I love hard and well. I spent my entire adult trying to perfect the love that I give. I am emotionally needy, but only because I have to replenish all that I give…
I hadn’t talked to a friend in the past few months. We live miles away, but she was my shoulder to lean on during my last (lack of) relationship. She was the one person I felt comfortable with enough to cry over someone so unworthy. She is a friend. When talked the other night and she told me that her mate had been unfaithful (too). Just like every female in my love life, her partner found it easier to get in someone else’s bed than to deal…I have no doubt that he loves her. But I know that love isn’t everything…
My friend is a dedicated mother. She has a son with special needs and twins—need I say more? Most of our conversations are about her children, husband and how she is giving them all. She is a beautiful person, shit, if she was a lesbian…I haven’t heard her complain, but I haven’t heard her talk about getting pampered or taking time out for herself, either.
She is a woman. And like most of us, she does what she feels she’s supposed to do, so there is no need to complain. You don’t get a medal for that, right? Whatever!!!
Beyonce and Ciarra are singing songs about being boys. Jazmine Sullivan is breaking windows out of cars…Song or no song, Karma is a bitch. If you are a cheater, or someone who takes wonderful beautiful things for granted—why? What is the point? Is it the high of risking what’s precious, or is it narcissism and feeling that you are the center of the universe and not caring about how bad it will hurt your lover? Why don’t cheaters fall for cheaters and leave the faithful people to themselves?
Let me know…
The 7 Signs of Cheating:
Perhaps the most heartbreaking feeling in the world is when you suspect your mate is cheating on you. You can easily become overwhelmed by feelings of betrayal and lack of trust.
But if you have suspicions about your mate’s faithfulness, it’s important to keep your head. After all, you could be completely wrong. Before you start making accusations, you should try to gather whatever evidence you can. Start by looking for these tell-tale signs he is cheating:
1. Your woman’s intuition tells you something is wrong…Feeling lonely when they’re around is the best way to describe it…
2. They tell you one thing and you find out another–they say they are going out with Keisha and them, but you see Keisha and them at the mall…
3. Lack of intimacy. You talk less and rarely spend time alone together. You get the feeling that you’re just not connecting anymore…Hello, anyone home???
4. Lack of sex…I’m tired…Yeah, ok…
5. They stop including you in things that used to be things that you do together…All of a sudden, they want to go to the market alone…
6. Being Secretive about things that they say are insignificant…Damn, baby, it’s not that deep…
7. You notice a strange number in his cell phone and he denies or lies about who it is. A friend who only has initials…
